I don't know about you, but this year is my year. Yes I have someone special in my life, but now in my mid thirties, no one can tell me that putting your self first, YES being 'selfish', IS NOT the done deal.
We all know the talk...you must Love yourself before anyone else can Love you. We hear it all the time.
I however, think that learning to Love yourself is easier said then done, especially for those of us born to single parents....who never remarried.
Yeah my Mum showed me Love. She worked 13 hours a day to ensure we didn't look like abandoned children or 'have not's'.
I had everything I needed. HOWEVER, because mummy worked so hard I never saw her relax, or spend time pampering herself.
Learning to Love myself and put myself first was self taught and took many years of people taking the piss with me, to really understand how I should Love Me.
First things first..... I refuse to see putting myself first in any situation that I choose to put myself first, as selfish. If you know me, you know that when I put myself first, yes in front of you (and of course without harming you); you always get the best ME.
The way society has conditioned us to put ourselves last and to give our all to someone else cause, to sacrifice our needs for another, is non beneficial to me.
You may disagree. Maybe people get the best out of you, when you rarely say no to a request, that puts you out in some way or another.
But me....nah, that Love language does not suit my dna. It's not my style. I've been there, done that and trashed the stale t-shirt many years ago.
This Valentines day, it's all about me and that's how I'm going to celebrate valentines from now on.
And I will not apologise to my other quarter (that's what I call my significant other...read in between the lines and you'll know why).
Because at the end of the day, in return of understanding that I have to put myself first...he always gets the best me ;-)
Happy Valentines Day x
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