In my idealistic world my mothers generation will be full of wisdom and encouragement. Ready and more than happy to share their life experiences. Not just because they pity us, 'younger ones', but because they are unashamed of their past, happy to share lessons of dark, frightening moments, that made them stop breathing for fear of death.
Okay I may be exaggerating a touch, but for real...what happened to sharing your secrets, the one's you have learnt lessons from and the ones you are still trying to work out.
I'd much prefer that level of interaction instead of me asking a simple question, and 'your generation', putting up a wall of defense that only Machiavelli would use to strategically fight against enemies.
What made you so angry. Was it 23 years in jail, rape, violation and abuse, neglect and torment that would have you dispise us youngsters.
Well, my elder...I was just a thought in God's great scheme of things when 'those things' happened to you. I was not there when you were wronged and not listened too. I was not there to save you from the ignorance and greed of mankind.
But I am here now, asking you to chill out....sort out your issues; so that we can talk respectfully, as an auntie or uncle would to a niece or nephew. CHILL OUT MAN. And let's be friends and walk this journey together.
For we, although younger, also have secrets, and knowledge and wisdom....and once you take off the veil, of so called 'protection' and lay down your defense. You may just realise, that we are all in the sammme boat, dealing with the sammme issues.
Oh and maybe if you would share your issues, we would be able to deal with ours a lot better than we are.
KMT.....I'm Elen B
In my last post I complained about selfish music managers interested only, in building their personal portfolio; leaving an artist confused, ill prepared and disillusioned.
In the same breath I also said I believe the manager is not to blame for the low profile and static career many independent artists experience.
The artists that categorically KNOW they have a talent, a unique voice or message; or even purpose, always...ALWAYS meet the right people on their journey. People that can SEE their vision and wish to assist them towards achieving their goals and ambition.
These confident artists, may be quieter than the rest, for their inner KNOWING that they will achieve is all they need to get them up in the morning. And their inner KNOWING is all they need to take the necessary steps to; write song after song; record song after song and perform song after song...without a whiff of receiving a Mercury or Brit Award.
But they know....one day; one decision; one action; one song will make all the difference.
So they keep on, and like a magnet keep meeting the right people at the right time. It's what I call the Boomerang Effect; what you feel you deserve deep down inside the depths of your soul, ALWAYS comes back to you ten fold.
So, if you have doubt, you'll meet doubtful people who, with sugar coated words that taste bitter, will insist on helping you on your journey.
If you have low confidence, you'll meet people who just can't keep constructive criticism constructive and, seem to take digs at you in a way that punches you deeper and deeper into feeling unworthy.
Do I need to go on? Because I'm sure you get my point. I've lived through this and seen many others too. See we are all the same, going through the same experiences...just maybe at different stages in our life.
Trust me, watch out for the Boomerang Effect....as it doesn't feel nice when your own negativity turns around and hits you with full force.
I tell you what. Take a look at the people around you. Do any of them put you down for less then pronouncing a word incorrectly? Or do any of them, say your out of your depth? Or.......... does just being around them kill your vibe?
If yes? Then go and do a MOT on yourself. Your self esteem, your self worth and your issues...you know those thoughts you have in the darkness of the night after waking up for what seems no reason at all.
Check yourself, Check your thoughts and Check your fears......(False. Evidence. Appearing. Real).
But most of all, make sure you switch them and turn them around, so that on a daily, hourly then minute to minute and second to second basis; You KNOW you deserve the best, you KNOW your talents are amazing, you KNOW you have something special to offer the world.
Then and only then, will you meet managers, A&R, promoters, booking agents, engineers (the list can go on) that trrrruuuullly truly wish to see you succeed, putting all their own 'God Given', 'I know I've got something to give the world' and 'I know I deserve success 'mantra', into your brand, your skills and your dreams.
I wish you all the best in your careers, what ever it is you do and wish to succeed in. And remember life's journey is a mental struggle so keep your mental healthy and push out the dirt.......immediately.
We do it for success sake....because Our Creator says we are just as Great. You are beautiful.
Imagine being in an empty room and one by one mirrors started to appear. Mirrors of all shapes and sizes. Mirrors that were individual tinted in either black, blue, grey, pink, red, green or yellow.
Imagine then, that whilst deciphering why you where in this room and how you got into this room, the mirrors began talking to you. Individually speaking words of love, kindness and encouragement, as well as words of doubt, harm, malice, jealousy and hatred.
Which words would you hear the loudest? Which words would make you laugh and which would make you cry? And now I ask you to reflect. Which words would you recognise, as words spoken to assist you in getting out of the room and, giving you the answers as to why you where in the room in the first place?
I have a situation at hand, right now as I write and whilst in reflection; calling on wisdom and love to guide me to better understand how I should handle it; I instantly came to understand that often times the people we are in contact with, though strangers or lovers they may be; act as our mirror; regurgitating and spitting out our joys, appreciations and likes as well as our fears, insecurities, secrets and self judgments.
I walk with a note pad because typing in my phone does not compare to writing my thoughts, insights and epiphany's in ink.